Stepmoms: Quit Comparing Yourself to His Ex!
I’ve ALWAYS obsessed about comparing myself to my husband’s ex and today I’m making it public. I fixated on her looks, parenting skills, her previous and current relationship with my husband, her...
View ArticleBecoming a Successful Stepcouple
Lately, in the work I do outside of coaching stepmoms in a support group, I have seen many stepcouple relationships come to an end. The statistics for second time marriages ending up in divorce tears...
View ArticleWhat Every Second Wife Needs to Hear
The most romantic statement Gabe ever made to me didn’t happen on our wedding day. He didn’t declare it at the base of the Eiffel Tower, or pen it in a greeting card. The sentence caught me by...
View ArticleSurviving the Court Process as the Second Wife
7 years; that’s how long my spouse and I have been together. 10 months; that’s how long we’ve officially been married. 18 months; that’s how long we’ve been in court to modify the original divorce...
View ArticleIncreasing Your Chances of Stepfamily Success: What You Should Know
If you’re reading this, you’ve probably figured out that building a blended family is a very complicated process. One critical point that we often overlook is that most families already have an...
View ArticleJourney to a Happy Heart
I recently asked the question on social media what words people associate with stepfamily, stepmom and step kids. It is incredible to me the amount of negative word associations with these phrases....
View ArticleFitting in as a Stepmom on Mother’s Day
As Mother’s Day approaches I have been reflecting on motherhood. As it tends to do, it has also shone a light on step-motherhood. I am a stepmom of 3 adult stepchildren and the biological mother of 2...
View ArticleA Message for Discouraged Stepmoms on Mother’s Day
Mother’s Day is upon us. That Sunday in May where a lot of us will be planning something special for the mothers in our lives. For the most part, we will try to give thanks to mothers for their love,...
View ArticleSharing the Love
With the birth of my little girl three months ago, I’ve reflected a lot on families and family dynamics; in between breastfeeding, changing diapers and reading “Brown Bear, Brown Bear, What Do You...
View ArticleLight at the End of the Tunnel
You probably feel like there are days that you are alone and that no one could possibly understand what your life is like. That you’ve stopped complaining about the little things and just go through...
View Article3 Words Every Stepmom Knows
I think it can be universally agreed that most girls don’t dream about becoming a stepmother when they grow up. I didn’t even know what a real-life stepmom was until I stayed at a friend’s family home...
View ArticleStepmum Do’s and Don’ts
I’ve recently been thinking about the ‘Dos’ and ‘Don’ts’ of stepparenting. It’s a bit of a mine field at the best of times and having searched through about 20 articles, I can’t honestly say I’ve found...
View Article10 Ideas to Help Prepare for Becoming a Stepparent
Becoming a stepparent is one of the hardest things I have ever done. It was never in my plan. In fact, it was quite literally a check in a “no” column when it came to my dating preferences. I had...
View Article10 Ways Our Family is More “Broken” Than “Blended”
Our society is so politically correct these days. But what if our insistence on using “positive” words actually detracts from the truth? What are we covering when we insist that our families are...
View ArticleA Stepchild’s Perspective: the Worst Part About Having a Stepmom
My dad married my stepmom when I was eight. When the officiate asked me if I would welcome her into our family, my mouth said “yes,” while my whole body screamed “no.” That was before I even had any...
View ArticleThe Passionate Stepmom
I’m a mom and a stepmom. I know both jobs are two of the hardest, sometimes most thankless jobs on the planet. But one of those roles has been more of a personal challenge for me than the other. Can...
View ArticleStepparenting: The Ultimate Part-Time Job
When I take something on, I’m all in. It took me the first third of my life to figure out what I’m not good at (basketball, math, volleyball, science, any sport involving a ball, anything involving...
View ArticleWhat My Worst Moments As A Stepmom Have Taught Me
There’s a lot I still don’t know about being a completely healthy, well-adjusted stepmom. There’s a lot I’m still figuring out. It’s definitely a complicated balancing act of epic proportions. But...
View ArticleJournal Out the Stepmom Stressors
Eight Reasons Why Journaling Is Good For You Journaling is good for you, and your relationships. Unlike your partner and your friends, the pages in your journal will never grow weary of listening to...
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